After describing to John a potentially serious family situation he responded with a long, sardonic laugh.
“Why are you laughing?” I asked, irked.
He shrugged. “Well, I have a limited repetoire of emotional responses and that was the only one I could find.” Then, as if to justify, he added, “My emotional search engine was running slow.”
Well. That explains a LOT over the past 39 years. Why isn’t there a Mandatory Disclosure Clause of this sort of thing during courtship?
“Why didn’t you TELL me this on our honeymoon??!!!” I asked.
“I didn’t know it until I said it.” was his response.
A glimpse into the male psyche, for sure. We laughed all morning over it- which is one reason we’ve stayed so happily married for 39 years.
The Bible tells husbands to “dwell with their wives according to knowledge so that their prayers will not be hindered.” Or as the Phillips version states, “…try to understand the wives you live with” (Ha! Good luck with that!). But I think it would do us wives well to dwell with our guys according to this knowledge about their display of emotion- or lack thereof. Accept it as a gift from the Lord. After all, wouldn’t it be a bit detrimental if we both got hysterical when the car two lanes over decided to move over one?
“Similarly, you husbands should try to understand the wives you live with, honouring them as physically weaker yet equal heirs with you in the grace of life. If you don’t treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard. To sum up, you should all be of one mind living together with true love and sympathy for each other, compassionate and humble.” 1 Pet. 3:7 (Phillips and NLT)