How to Not Drown

Yesterday I addressed the issue of a believing spouse that decides to no longer believe—a situation listed on the Top 10 of “Things That Rock Our Boat, Tip it Over, and Leave us Flailing in the Icy Waters Off the East Siberian Coast”.

I’m reminded of a white water rafting trip on the North Fork of the American River. As we headed toward a narrow canyon, a guy, young enough to be my son, jumped out of the raft into the water. I did the only sane thing a mother would do: I jumped in after him. Turns out, that was insane. Under I went, and every time I surfaced I gulped water rather than air. So sure of my eminent death, my mind actually started singing,

“Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound…” I once was lost but now I’m drowned…

As I flailed I heard a still, small, voice saying, “Head to shore! Head to shore!” It wasn’t God’s voice, but it was a good second— the voice of our rafting guide.

I was so busy flailing and trying to “save” the other guy (who, didn’t need saving after all), I forgot to swim. Also, had I remembered the life vest wrapped around me, I wouldn’t have panicked, but known regardless of the depth to which I sank, I’d be buoyed up again.

So it is with all things in the Top Ten, and particularly THIS thing of which I speak:

* It’s normal to freak-out when your spouse takes a dive; you just can’t REMAIN freaked-out. When you stop flailing, you’ll remember to swim.

* Also, you can’t save the guy. There’s One who can though, and our Guide is very aware of the situation. Leave it to the Expert.

– Remember you’re life-vest wet suit and scuba gear, which hadn’t been invented back in the day of Ephesians chapter 6, but they had “the full armor of God”. You have that. Put it on. Learn how to use it.

There’s no greater classroom than the School of Hard Walks, and no greater guide than the One who’s seen it all. Last I looked, He was not wringing His nail-pierced hands, but rather holding them out to you— yes, YOU. Take hold. Trust. Learn. And don’t forget to breathe.

…to be continued…


Put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm.

Eph. 6:13

The waves Of deaths swirled about me; the torrents of destruction overwhelmed me…

(2 Sam. 22:5)…He treads on the waves of the sea…(Job 9:8)…He stilled the storm to a whisper; the waves of the sea were hushed…(Ps. 107:29)…If only you had paid attention to my commands, your peace would have been like a river, your well-being like the waves of the sea…Isaiah 48:18

“Peace! Be still!” Jesus cried, and the wind died down and it was completely calm. (Mark 4:39) “Be still and know that I am God.” (Ps.46:10)


Read Mark 4 “The Storm”.

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