It is an oddity of nature that the louder we speak, the less we hear ourselves.
The Bible says, “A wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.” (Pro. 14:1) I’d venture to say my mouth plays the more major “hand”.
I’m not alone. I’ve heard you women (another anomaly of nature: we hear the voice of others, but not our own).
If we were the strong, courageous women we purport to be, we’d ask our spouse or kids to record us, but I’m pretty sure we couldn’t bear to hear the results. Kinda strange, isn’t it— that what we so freely dish out and expect others to swallow, we ourselves won’t eat?
Thankfully, there is a palatable cure: I can ask the Holy Spirit to expose the truth about me (it’s part of His job description- John 14:26,15:26), and then spend the rest of my life in repentance to God and others for being so deaf, so dumb, and so loud.
“Set a guard, Oh Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips.” Psalm 141:3
Blessing [God] and cursing [others] come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right! James 3:10
(And those passive-aggressive types aren’t off the hook either: Proverbs 26:18,19; 30:20, for starters).